The Art Of Pleasuring A Man

Fellatio - colloquially blow job, giving head - is oral stimulation of a man's penis by his partner during sex. Stimulation of the penis is by the mouth, lips, tongue, or "deep throat". Fellatio is an erotic and physically intimate act, serving as part of foreplay and causing sexual arousal before intercourse. Fellatio may be partial (not including orgasm) or continued to orgasm with ejaculation of semen. Fellatio can replace sexual intercourse in cases of physical difficulty, such as arthritis, acid reflux, or heartburn treatment. Also it may be used during pregnancy instead of vaginal intercourse by couples wanting intimate sexual activity without the difficulty of sex during later stages of pregnancy.

Fellatio comes from fellatus, the past participle of the Latin verb fellare, to suck. English words are based on the Latin root: if you give fellatio you are termed a fellator, and if a woman, a fellatrix (though when did you last hear anyone say that!). Fellating, fellate and so on....

Deep-throating is when a man's entire erect penis is inserted into the partner's throat. The natural gag reflex makes this difficult! Some people learn to suppress the reflex.

Nancy Friday's book, Men in Love - Men's Sexual Fantasies suggests swallowing ejaculate is high on the intimacy scale for most men. (But even in 1976, some doctors told women in the final months of pregnancy not to swallow semen because it might induce labor. This is a myth.) Which just goes to show how oriented against female sexual liberation the medical profession has traditionally been, and how pleased by this the patriarchal defenders of modern sexual mores must have been.

Homosexual relations with semen swallowing are a cultural tradition in some places: the Baruya culture has a ritual in which boys fellate men and swallow their semen; the Sambia people of Papua New Guinea make all young males submit to oral penetration by older men in a so-called initiation process - supposedly regular ingestion of an older male's semen will make a youth achieve sexual maturity and engender masculinity.

In the modern USA, and no doubt elsewhere, oral sex serves as a way to preserve "virginity" for adolescent girls who fellate their partners to satisfy their boyfriends wile preserving their virginity and avoiding pregnancy. It also seems to be a regular introduction to sexual activity. Fellatio cannot result in pregnancy, obviously, but Chlamydia, human papillomavirus (HPV), and other sexual infections including gonorrhea, herpes, and all strains of hepatitis may be transmitted through oral sex.

Further, if the giver or receiver of fellatio is infected with HIV, there is a risk of infection, albeit far lower than the risk associated with regular vaginal or anal sex. Naturally, if the receiving or giving partner have wounds or open sores on genitals or mouth, or bleeding gums, there is an increased risk of infection.

Oral Sex Techniques

When you can give head without gagging, you can add some enticing oral sex techniques to give him great pleasure without "deep throating" him. You certainly don't have to swallow, even taste his come though you might like it after all!  Start fellatio with the A Classic Blowjob then try a variation or some wild improvisations:

Slide the tip of your tongue all around his glans, pee-hole and frenulum, working into every crevice and fold of foreskin until he's rock hard. Or add to his pleasure by "tea bagging": tongue his balls, caress them lightly with your tongue, gradually increase the intensity, and finally fill your mouth with one (or both!) of his balls: a very exciting oral sex move for a man!

Even better, perhaps, tease the glans of his cock with your mouth and tongue, very lightly indeed. To act like a vibrator, place your puckered lips on his penis head and hum a tune.... the vibration will make him stand and salute!

A classic technique: change the temperature in your mouth (keep a hot or cold drink in your mouth) and plunge his penis in. Alternatively blow your cool or hot breath over his hard stand....then, make him think you're going to give him a hand-job, but just before he comes, go down on him and cover his cock with mouth... or alternate the two: try a fast hand job then switch to a slow, hard suck.

A technique men love for fellatio: keep your head still and let him thrust into your mouth: if he's big, grip your hand around his shaft so he doesn't go too deep. Finally, to really treat your partner, suck a strong mint or menthol sweet along with his penis.

The sensation can awaken the nerve endings and get him really excited. As you see, a little creativity and variation will be exciting and sensual for you both.

FELLATIO - A TUTORIAL FOR WOMEN

Let's break down any barriers that would prevent you from expressing your love in this way. First LOOK at his cock. Place him flat on his back, take his cock in your hand and LOOK at it; worship his very essence. Few men can stay soft when the person LOOKING at his cock is worshipping. Certainly, when you touch him, his cock will become hard and you will more easily see parts sensitive to stimulation by lips and tongue.

Is he circumcised? In ether case, oral kisses and caresses bring the greatest delight to your man. Next take a close look at the shaft and head; the rim of the glans is the coronal ridge - the most sensitive spot on the penis, and one that deserves most of your attention when giving head.

The most sensitive spot on his entire body is his frenulum: you may even be able to bring your partner to orgasm just by gently lapping the tip of your tongue on it.

Caressing the glans and the shaft of the penis, which has few nerve endings and so responds only a little to manual stimulation or tongue stimulation. Sucking up and down on the penile shaft will only make him come if the back of your throat or roof of your mouth is rubbing on his glans. His testicles provide a high degree of pleasure for him with the right kind of attention. And remember - many men are particularly sensitive around their nipples.

Fellatio Techniques

The fact is that most women do not know how to suck cock. Skill is required to suck a man's penis for the highest degree of pleasure possible. Start by having his erect penis pointing up as you cup his balls in one hand and lick softly, carefully, along the underside of his erection.

As you move along you will learn which areas give him the greatest pleasure from having your tongue touch them.

When you discover these areas, concentrate on them. For most men the coronal ridge is most sensitive, along with the frenulum, and the pee hole. Licking and tapping will please him in a hurry! You can become familiar with the nature and power of his ejaculation in this way....

As he nears orgasm, you will see changes in his penis: the head swells somewhat larger than normal; he may thrust his hips forward; his cock gets even harder; full ejaculation lies immediately ahead!

But... back to fellatio: where should you be when sucking cock? Kneel between his legs and approach his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or the top - but also see what works best for you both. Place his erect penis inside your mouth then, with loose lips, begin a circular motion, taking his penis to different places inside your mouth as you circle. (Mind your teeth!)

A kneeling position is effective with your partner on his back and your head directly over his penis. Performed correctly, this gives hours of unadulterated pleasure!

Next: with your man sitting up, with you on your knees in front of him, find the underside of his balls with your tongue. Lick upwards to the tip of his cock; the "lollipop" lick is a technique few men can tolerate for long without coming.

Now: a technique that is most common - take his cock in your mouth, but not deeply at first - and slide your moist tongue over the head, letting your lips close around it just beyond the coronal ridge: then slide his penis in - he will enjoy this very much, especially if you envelope the shaft of his penis in your hand, to give him the sensation of having his penis encased.

At this point, you can twist your head from side with your lips in contact with the coronal ridge; moving your hand up and down his shaft all the while. If he reaches orgasm he will probably want to push your head further down onto his penis.

He wants to deeply penetrate you with his penis - an instinctive response. If you want to feel him come in your mouth, lick round the corona as he ejaculates to intensify and increase the force of his orgasm.

There is a refinement to this basic technique to heighten his orgasm: place your thumb at the base of the penis to stop semen escaping, even though he is spasming and trying to ejaculate semen.

As he does so, suck vigorously on the glans of his penis as you delay ejaculation for several seconds - when you finally allow his semen to spurt his ejaculation will last much longer and be even more intense; you will be surprised by the intensity of his orgasm and ejaculation.

Overcoming The Gag Reflex During Fellatio

The biggest obstacle to taking all of a man's erection down your throat is the bend behind your tongue - first thing is to get his erection past that point. Get in a position where you can orientate your head so your mouth and throat form almost a straight line: for example, lie on a bed with your head near the edge of the bed tipped sharply back.

This position will put your mouth and throat in such a way so insertion of his penis can be much deeper, even so deep that his pubic hair presses against your lips.

Deep penetration can fully be enjoyed when your natural tendency to gag is overcome... which you can do by completely relaxing your throat as he penetrates your mouth. However, you have to maintain this relaxation during the rest of the deep throating.

So start by letting him put his penis into your throat, then have him stop moving as you find the most comfortable way to take more of him. His pleasure comes from you keeping your mouth tightly closed around him.

You will be able to relax and take him this way if you trust him: he is in control. He can insert his penis as far down your throat as he wishes, then with an in-out movement like fucking, he begins to thrust rhythmically...... but few women can learn how to accept this.... though trying is itself a great deal of fun.... provided he does not get carried away as his instincts take over. 

The key is to allow your throat to relax completely as he thrusts deeply; practice will allow you to accept his erection deeper into your throat each time for greater time.

The Testicles in Fellatio

Many men are extremely sensitive in their testicles, so begin by gently licking his balls, perhaps playing with his nipples, and gently caressing his penis with your hand at the same time. It will be a great pleasure for him if you take both his balls in your mouth. But do it gently!

Analingus

Practice safe sex at all times!

 Have your partner lying on his back with his legs in the air and his knees up; his buttocks will spread apart, giving you access to his asshole. The nerve endings around the anus can give him extreme pleasure; analingus is a powerful technique, and can  cause a rapid and powerful orgasm when you also masturbate or fellate him.

Many men are sensitive in their ass; anal play will enhance what your mouth and tongue and throat are doing to his cock, but go slowly as you begin to explore the velvety sensations around his anus.

If you completely penetrate him, his prostate gland can be massaged. Prostate massage will produce some delightful sensations for him, and a finger is all that is required, though a mini-vibrator works exceptionally well too!

Some men like an in-out movement while others do not. And note that when your man orgasms, his muscles may try to push your finger or the vibrator out of his anus. But to maximize his pleasure hold your finger or the vibrator in place. You can get the facts on prostate health supplements here.

Come Again?

While many men are exhausted by a single ejaculation, it may be possible to get him erect again but achieving a second orgasm and ejaculation may take time. Fellatio alone is usually not enough to get a man off a second time: so don't hesitate in further exploration of his body - nipples, balls, asshole, armpits, earlobes.... you get the idea.

Just explore all the erotic areas that you missed first time around... second time around, there is a lack of expectation around the time frame. For example, you could give him a complete tongue bath, or explore his body completely......

Sixty Nine & Other Fellatio Techniques

Sixty nine, done correctly and unselfishly, is the ultimate. But often it is a satisfying experience for one partner at the expense of the other. But to be mutually pleasurable, both of you must be experts at oral sex. Giving head and receiving it must be equal in importance.

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